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"I really want to show you something"

Why has the dick pic gained this much popularity in our time?  How did guys become comfortable sharing them with a total Stranger?

This was one of those things that became norm with the intro of the smart phone. The smart phone changed dating as well as so many other things. This is not what people experienced even a decade ago. I get this sense when I speak to people about 10 years older than I am. The thought of getting a dick picture is completely revolting and astounding to them. For me though, although still revolting it has become norm and unsurprising.

How many times have I begun a conversation on OKC, Tinder, Match, Bagel meets coffee etc and within a few exchanges I'm asked things like:

What are you wearing?
Do you like being naughty?
Are you ok with something casual? 
Can I show you something? (dick pic build up)

My eyes are constantly performing eye roll exercises. The moment I'm complimented as being sexy--I have an idea what's coming. Recently, I have begun taking screenshots to show proof to my friends and they are stunned. My sister has asked, "What is WRONG with people?" after she saw what one guy proposed after 40 texts. He first asked for a casual relationship and when I said I was looking for a little more, he did not feel discouraged, instead he asked us to have sex over video chat. I again declined and wished him luck and then he said "How about you just watch me as I play with myself". This guy was on match.com, cute like Clark Kent and making 6 figures. These guys are everywhere.

I asked a male co-worker....why do men think that women want a dick pic?

His response is that it's a way for men to show that you are the object of their desire. I find it hard to believe that this is meant to make anyone feel special...especially cause men these days got stock dick pics on their phones. Thats right, this is a thing. I have received dick pics that I can tell are not in the moment and likely shared with other "objects of desire".

Then there are the weird guys....these guys make me wonder if I should just give up. One guy was extremely handsome in his pictures, seemed to have lots of friends, successful in his career and you wonder to yourself how can someone like this be single?

He kept making it clear in his profile and in our conversation, that he was interested in something serious that would lead to marriage NOW. Which when compared to the casual thing sounds a bit intense but still more desirable than a dick pic. We spoke, talking a bit about ourselves and then he asked me how I felt about flirting with other men while in a relationship.

I told him I'm a very loyal girl and when in love I don't see anyone else but my partner. As a single person I am a flirt for sure. He said, what if you meet someone you are really attracted to while in a relationship. I told him, well I'm not blind but I am not one to stray. He then let me know that he actually prefers that his wife be tempted and really WANT to have an affair but would show restrain. He asked if I would be able to flirt with men while in a relationship with him. I told him, that it was not my personality and he asked me to reconsider it and I also wished him luck. It seemed crazy to me that someone could only be turned on if their partner was always wanting more and suffering in temptation. 

The road to love is full of dick pics people... I'm not even warming up. Lots of freaky stories to come.

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